You know what you should be doing, and what it takes to do what you're doing or should be doing. Some days it all rattles around in my head in too many directions. And you feel like you're not getting enough back, etc. Hard, aggravating, sometimes real, sometimes defeatist, and sometimes just having a pity party. And then you find the awesome thing.
That years of putting yourself out there pays back. It pays back in someone not breaking up with you, but taking decisive action to further the goals that the 2 of you have. It pays back in a "friends & family" discount on a house you wouldn't be able to afford otherwise, and in a place where you'd be clueless about where to look or what the options are when you first land there. Even though you know you want to go. It pays back in people being willing to give you a little more leeway. And it pays back when you're not even looking and trying to figure out how you're going to deal with selling the place you already have. When mentioning you're figuring this out, putting it out there, just as part of "updating on my life and plans" nets "Hey, I think I know someone who might be interested" and that's not even what you were looking for. But damn, it's sure nice to get it.